Schrödinger’s Douchebag

Some people say mean things, and when they get chastised for it, will say it is a joke. But it is what they mean.

Schrödinger‘s Douchebag: A person who says offensive things and decides whether they were joking based upon the reaction of people around them

The question you should be asking is – do they mean this because:

  • They are ignorant
  • They thought they were fitting in
  • They have a phobic response to something
  • They are just not a nice person

Another question that is good to ask is – what are you going to do about it? Some good options are:

  • Challenge it
  • Educate and advocate
  • Help them recognise it is irrational
  • Avoid them if they won’t or can’t learn

Your choice may depend on your energy levels and safety.

Schrödinger's Douchebag: A person who says offensive things and decides whether they were joking based upon the reaction of people around them