Concept: Radical Acceptance

This DBT Skill invites you to acknowledge that how things should be is a worthy goal, but that isn’t how things are right now – and we have to deal with right now. We need to Radically Accept what *is* real and what *is* happening, and come up with a now plan, while delaying trying … Read more

4 Keys to Mental Health

Mental Health is important for everyday functioning in this thing we call life. Mental Health can rapidly turn to Mental Ill-health when there are any one of these adverse factors: diet, exercise, medication therapy and talking therapy. I know, diet and exercise seems to cliché, but they really are important. 1 Diet We are what … Read more

Bad Guy, Mistaken or Scapegoat

It is not uncommon to be accused of doing bad things, but claims don’t make it true. Here we work out if you are the Bad Guy, Mistaken or their Scapegoat. Being accused of doing bad things doesn’t mean that you are bad. It may mean you did do a bad thing, it may mean … Read more

Chronic Pain is awful

Chronic Pain is awful. To have a diagnosis of Chronic Pain, you need to be in significant pain for most of the day, for most of the days of the week. To define significant pain, we include “I move differently, and or avoid doing some things so that I don’t hurt” when those are activities … Read more

Determining Real

Determining Real is an important step in trying to find the difference between truth and fiction. It is far too easy these days to be led into thinking that fiction is true. What can we do to combat that? You may also be interested in: The Reality Heuristic: A method to help us in determining … Read more

Surviving Christmas

Many people love christmas. For them, christmas is a time of joy, sharing and good will. I wish them the best and I’m glad they enjoy it. For others, this time of year is hell. Here we will be looking at why people struggle, and some things you can do for surviving christmas. There are … Read more

Trans and Gender Dysphoria Confusion

The medical texts required you to be gender dysphoric for you to be able to access gender affirming care for being trans. This ignores two important aspects of being trans, autistic perceptions of discomfort and pain; and trans euphoria. In Australia, the medical texts required you to be “Gender Dysphoric” for you to be able … Read more

False Hole in Bucket Illusion

There is a hole in my bucket, dear Liza, dear Liza. And to fix that hole, I need to fix another thing, and to fix that… Hopefully we all know the song, where Henry is stuck, unable to do any task, because every task needs something else to be done first, and each of those … Read more

The Priority 5

Sometimes we are not sure what is most important for us to do. For people who see me for therapy, here is a guideline of The Priority 5. 1) Medication2) Food3) Safety4) Your happiness5) Someone else’s happiness* Happiness follows the Consent Rules