Mental Health Therapy
Rejection Sensitivity is a strong reaction to perceived or actual rejection. It can often be triggered by fearing having done something tenuous wrong that another person will then act upon, or by the perception of negative feedback. It often starts as a result to poor masking. Masking is a mechanism that neurodivergent people, such as … Read more
Introduction Social Scripts are a good way to shape social behaviour and small talk. Social Contracts are agreements that you feel obligated to uphold. Each of these allow society to be civil with low effort. Errors in either of these can cause social awkwardness. Additionally, some people exploit Social Scripts and Social Contracts for their … Read more
Anxiety is a feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease about something with an uncertain outcome. At low levels it prepares us for an experience with low predictability in case the outcome is not good for us and we need to act quickly and decisively to become safe. This is a good thing. Anxiety heightens our … Read more
The past has happened We can’t change it, but we can learn from it The present is happening This is the time that we can act, this is where we can make a change … but to what? The future is yet to happen We can look forwards and chose a pathway to the future … Read more
ADHD gets a pretty hard wrap, mostly because it is diagnosed based on their ADHD brains are not going well. We very rarely assess people for ADHD when their ADHD brains are working for them. So here is what it looks like when ADHD works well. Other things that I would add as modern pros:* … Read more
Being a parent is hard. We hear all sorts of complex advice that seems contradictory. For most youth, this is what I recommend to parents to help guide them. Some youth require extra layers on top of this – for that, check with your or your children’s therapist. 1) Let your children know you love … Read more
Change is hard, takes work and may not work the way you want it to. This is why most people try not to make changes. This can lead to some of the common traits of denial, bargaining and anger rather than making the necesarry changes to meet the situation. People will invest a great deal … Read more
Sometimes, despite our best efforts, life happens and all that we can do is hold on until the ride is over. It may seem scary and that we can’t possibly survive, but we will and do. This feeling is called the Trauma Coaster. Trauma Coaster: Recognising that you are in for a wild ride, that … Read more
Some people say mean things, and when they get chastised for it, will say it is a joke. But it is what they mean. Schrödinger‘s Douchebag: A person who says offensive things and decides whether they were joking based upon the reaction of people around them The question you should be asking is – do … Read more
Frequently people are told they are good or bad, and sometimes the people doinng the telling have good intention and are wrong, have bad intentions and are wrong, or may actually be right. There is a signficiant loss of power when we let someone else tell us if we are good or bad – we … Read more